Pocket Dispatch from the Subway

Recently I had the opportunity to waste time downtown. I relish wasting time anywhere, and I have always loved wandering around bustling city centers. I also like to visit The Loop now and then to see what’s still open, like a wellness check. I delight in discovering a business that I like has survived, and I inspect the new businesses that are trying their luck there like young livestock, wondering if they are hardy enough to prosper. Still, it is a dirty and increasingly hollowed out place—a reminder of who loses in America when winners move on.

The poverty and suffering on display is staggering. So is the stratification of society. Many of the city’s highest earners are concentrated there during business hours, speedwalking past the homeless and mentally ill begging for train fare and lunch money. It is impossible to go downtown without confronting this, especially on public transit.

But I prefer public transit. It’s another aspect of city living I romanticize, even when I have to change subway cars three times before I find one that doesn’t reek of piss and body odor.

On my recent trip to The Loop, my fourth subway car was crowded. I shuffled past the crowd congregated between the doors, then wound my way through the rest of the car until I reached the emergency exit at the end. Once there, I turned around to watch the rest of the car and stay out of everyone’s way until the train approached my stop.

Everyone was pawing at their phones. It’s an arresting sight: No one seems aware of their surroundings. Some doze off with their phones in their laps. Still others seem oblivious to their open bags beside them, occupying a seat and ripe for picking.

It’s been this way as long as I can remember, but I haven’t had a job with a commute in six years. I’ve nearly forgotten the eerie sight of a roomful of adults all unhooked from reality at once, like an opium den you can take to the airport.

My eyes scanned the train for a while, taking this in, then settled on a young man in a window seat whose phone activity seemed more engaged than everyone else’s. He flipped frantically between apps, pulling down the notifications list every few moments. Nothing new. Then he would return to his Home Screen, launch a game, then switch back to a social media app’s DM inbox. No new messages. Back to the notifications. Nothing new. Then the Home Screen. Then a new app. Then the game again. He would play for seconds before repeating the cycle.

I wondered what he felt when switching between the inbox and the notifications screen. Was it hope? Or worry? His face was expressionless. Even his blinking was slow. Maybe he found this calming, or it soothed his boredom. I wondered how he would know when it was time to stand up and move toward the exit.

I started feeling uneasy watching him, like I was seeing something I shouldn’t, the way it feels when you overhear a couple arguing in hisses in the kitchen at a dinner party they’re hosting. Or seeing someone pick their nose while reading in the park. Do you they know people can see them? Do they even realize what they’re doing?

I looked at the floor, suddenly afraid to see anyone else’s screens. The young man suddenly horrified me, and the panorama of glowing faces was making me feel queasy.

I slid my shoulder bag around my body to my chest and clutched it with my arms crossed. The train was entering a station, but I wasn’t sure which. When we stopped, I began my “excuse mes” and “coming outs” and made my way through the crowd.

The air on the platform was not fresh but it was a welcome change. I sat down on a bench outside the train door and looked at the spot on the floor between my feet.

2023-09-15 10:25

Keeping Score

2023-08-20 07:48

Keeping Score

2023-08-20 07:48

Doing some quick math in my in-laws’ shower: My parents owned their house from the spring of 1994 until the fall of 2018. 14 years. No, 24.

I began visiting my in-laws in southwest Ohio in 2007. At what point will their home, which feels almost familiar as a place I grew up, and in some ways is, become a place I’ve been inhabiting for as long as my actual childhood home?

Technically the answer is 2031. But I feel it happening already. I come in, I say a soft hello to whomever is around. I serve myself some water to drink. Maybe a snack. I have hugs for whomever wants them. Little fanfare.

Photo by Scott Webb

I help myself to a shower if I want one before bed. What’s there to say about it? I was maybe 20 when I first used this shower. I’ve long been coming of age in this place I didn’t choose, where people I love welcome me and look after me and tolerate the collapse of my mind, body, spirit, and energy whenever I arrive for a visit “home.”

It has the same quirky faucet as my own childhood bathroom, one you have to pull down to toggle from bath to shower head. Both are plastic shells. My childhood shower’s shell had a ceiling to it that became claustrophobic as I grew to 6 feet tall in college. This shower doesn’t have that, but the floor creaks beneath it when I shift my weight.

I turn off the shower and reach past the curtain for my towel, which is hanging on a hook nearby. I don’t need to look for it or grope around. I am a guest with muscle memory of the premises.

Someone calls to me from outside the door. “We’re heading downtown,” my wife says. “Want to come?”

I don’t hesitate. “No,” I bellow back so she can hear me through the door. “I think I’m happy just being here.”

2023-07-29 21:49